Homosexuality

What's this doing in an article about breathing? Hopefully it will explain itself. mgw

I'm going to say my name is Brian from San Diego, but that isn't true. I will be 16 in less than a month, and I'm a sophomore in high school. 3 years ago, I became a born-again Christian. However you want to say it, I was saved. I read through two-thirds of the Bible. I couldn't turn off the Michael w. Smith CD's or put down the Max Lucado and Bruce Wilkinson books. Church as much as I could. Youth group and rallies all over the state. Skiing and mission trips across the country were something I looked forward to each year. I felt a calling to ministry just over 2 years ago. I'm never going to get away from God. Even though I might not be a pastor or missionary, I will always want to take up a profession that involves glorifying God. Right now, that happens to be musically. Anyways...here is my dilemma. I met a guy a little younger than me online. To make a long story short, he was an answer to a prayer I have had all my life. A friend I've never been able to find. But, I now feel I'm falling in love with him. I've never once cared this much for someone, not even family or past serious girlfriends, and now I'm thinking....okay there are two choices. 1 - I really don't love him the way I think I do because God thinks it is wrong for males to love other males this intimately. Or 2 - Everything I've gone through and experienced is telling me that I am head over heals in love with another guy. Never thought it was possible until now. Which ever the case is, I don't understand how God can condemn a love this pure. I honestly don't think I could ever marry another male, just because I know I'm supposed to marry a women. But right now, I'm in love with this guy and I'm scared to think that 3 years of complete dedication to God is now being overrun by this immoral feeling that has seeped into every vein of my body. Please tell me what is going on if you can...and how is it possible that God can hate an amazing love that is overpowering every instinct I’ve ever felt? Thanks for your time.

From Mike:
If one excludes gays from being of God they would have to also exclude cripples, midgets, dwarfs and those that can not procreate.
("And God breathed the breath of life into man") People who breathe are human and of God.
That would be selective and in many ways outright cruel.
You are young. Your feelings may be transient. People often get sexual feelings mixed up with core values or goals. Your heart and attitude towards others is what matters.

What do you want in the long haul? If you want children that come directly from your lineage and grow to be self loving without personal confusion or conflict then be careful as the gay life may not allow for that without insemination and other chancy actions within society.
Do not label yourself. There is no hurry to define your sexuality. Many men are attracted to other men sexually from time to time and that is not enough reason to define one's self or live a gay lifestyle.

You can always change your lifestyle to the way you truly feel when but at your age things may not have developed fully. 

I believe that God loves those that treat others with love and kindness. Be flexible and love yourself in any way you are. God will love you regardless. I am straight by the way. 

For Brian. To add to my above email.

I am a health professional.

Normal healthy people can feel sexual feelings during the presence of others of the same sex. This is transient and has little to do with the person in their presence or if it does we still have the choice about reacting or not reacting and the short or long term implications of that. Study the chakra system for more about this.

We need babies to support humanity. Relatively recent surgical trickery does not justify a lifestyle that will not continue the human race. But this is America and we should be free to live the way we choose. Anal sex however is unhealthy. VERY unhealthy. Talk to a colon hygienist about this.

Gongenital/genetic attractions to the same sex are the work of God. Let them be and hopefully in health as best they can.  They are but a small minority and need not threaten the future of human beings (even in the slightest). Relationships stemming from fear and anger at men (even when justifiable) as in many lesbian couples, are sad and sick and WILL threaten the human race. Heal the sick, don't chastise them, heal them.  Love them. Judge them on how they treat you and others.

It is common knowledge that men are often confused with not knowing how they feel and are subject to being led astray by others with strong sexual energy and common or hidden interests that are a strong pull to brave, creative, young and abundant hormones. Learn what women want and practice that as a communication skill. Once you have developed the skills to nurture a man AND a woman then make your decision as to how you want to live your life.

The challenge for gays is to learn what is natural or socially/traumatically conditioned and then live their lives as they deem most appropriate. As long as they respect others, gays should be respected and loved.

I again caution that feelings and emotions may be transient or stem from biased attitudes or a distorted vision. (Hell hath no fury like a vested interest masking as a moral principle.)  Fear, lust and anger often color interests and agendas.

Be extremely careful of the consequences of your decisions and the lifestyle you choose as it will color your reality. Long term decisions as to identity may not be so easily changeable once thousands of day to day strategies become second "nature". Find more Christians that agree with all of this and will accept you and love you the way you are RIGHT NOW. Love is senior to sexuality but it will not in of itself ensure the future of mankind. Healthy habits breed a healthy lifestyle and you ALWAYS have the choice of what you make as a habit.  Your hormones do not run your life; YOU & God do. 

Keep breathing, and moment to moment, with every breath affirm the most idealistic life you want to live and do so with all your heart. Never look back and never, ever stop being the way you want to be.

Good luck and God bless, MGW